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Prejudices about BDSM, an increasingly widespread practice

prejudices about bdsm

Today, BDSM is a victim of prejudices, clichés and stereotypes. Misunderstandings can arise from a general lack of knowledge about sexual practices. For example, it is sometimes assumed that a submissive would prefer to experience pain and degradation in her daily life, or conversely, that they would prefer to have the exact opposite. There is no clear correlation between position in everyday life and sm gaming preferences. Another misconception is the idea that women are generally dominant in SM relationships. Very often the image of BDSM is reduced to the idea of ​​gross corporal punishment, neglecting the broad spectrum of behavior within the culture. The bdsm props like the whip, the brutal domination, the sadomasochist are often common stereotypes. Overlaps between different types of fetish may exist, there is no direct link between BDSM and fetish (eg: latex, PVC or leather).

BDSM Misconceptions: Misconceptions About BDSM

the Bdsm systematically involves physical pain : this is totally wrong, preferences vary widely and not all forms of bdsm induce pain. When there is pain, that pain is experienced in the context of love, trust and excitement.

SM activities inevitably escalate to the extreme: false, bdsm is based on mutual consent, and partners can stop play at any time.

BDSM is self-destructive – it is simply inaccurate and not supported by any evidence.

SM behaviors stems from childhood abuse – There is no evidence for this claim, and it has been refuted by various articles

BDSM is distinct from “vanilla” sex – for most practitioners, BDSM activities and “regular” relationships are often combined or intertwined in some way.

In western industrialized countries and in Japan, since the 1980s, sadomasochists have started to form support groups to counter the discriminatory image. This happened independently in the United States and in several European countries. With the advent of the web, international cooperation began to develop, for example Datenschlag is a joint effort of sadomasochists in the three major German-speaking countries. There are also actions to promote cooperation and international collaboration.

Prejudices about BDSM: Coming out bdsm

We will agree that it can be difficult for a bdsm practitioner to come out of the closet. A study in the United States reports that only 25% of bdsm practitioners come out of the closet. Moreover, apart from a few artists, hardly any celebrities are publicly known as sadomasochists.

Public knowledge of a person’s BDSM life can have devastating effects both professionally and socially (Persona non grata). The reason for this is mainly the consequence of the public’s lack of knowledge of bdsm but also of the too sinister and sensationalist media coverage.

In feminist circles the discussion has been roughly divided into two camps: those who see BDSM as an aspect or reflection of oppression (e.g. Alice Schwarzer) and, on the other hand, pro-BDSM feminists. Some feminists have criticized BDSM because they believe it reinforces misogyny. They argue that women who engage in BDSM are making a choice that is ultimately bad for women. Feminist BDSM advocates claim that consensual BDSM activities are enjoyed by many women. They argue that feminists should not attack another woman’s sexual desires. The main point of pro-bdsm feminism is the free choice of women in their sex life.

It is often mentioned that in BDSM the roles are not fixed to gender, but to personal preferences. Several studies on the correlation between BDSM pornography and violence against women show that there is no correlation. Japan is a good example :. A country that has the lowest rate of sex crimes of any industrialized country, while also being well known for its strong BDSM community.

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