BDSM: 4 Letters that crack like a whip and awaken in us dark, shameful desires. BD for Bondage and Discipline, DS for Domination and Submission, SM for Sadomasochism. Welcome to the world of hot pleasures, welcome to my world.
Many people have a very vague and superficial idea of what practice Bdsm, the current novels which speak about the subject are fictitious stories resulting from the imagination of their respective author and often very far from reality. In essence, they even provide a limited insight into the reality of BDSM practices.
Today I imagine that a curious neophyte who visit an online sex shop, with the idea of learning about BDSM practices is a bit lost. What to start with ? With which sextoys could he initiate himself to these pleasures? What pleasures to go towards?
He will be able to find on the Internet many sites defining well-established rules on what are the basics of a D / s relationship or a BDSM relationship. These common rules are often shared by many practitioners. I do not believe, however, that these rules are sufficient to infuse the minds and feelings of the followers of this world. They sometimes lack sensitivity, cerebrality and are sometimes obscure.
The first rule that I will enact would be not to forget the main one: the quest for pleasure. It is above all this quest for pleasure that directs the protagonists of the BDSM world. The neophyte will be able to ask himself many questions such as: How do these practitioners take pleasure in this type of relationship? What pleasure can we have in dominating or in submitting, in humiliating or being humiliated, in hurting or being hurt whether we are a man or a woman?
In bdsm it is necessary to note the difference between a relation D / s and SM. The D / s relation (Domination / submission) can turn out to be more cerebral than the SM relation (Sadomasochistic) which by definition will bring into play the notion of pain management. It is not necessarily the same in a D / s relation.
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BDSM, Domination / submission
In a D / s relationship, one of the two partners assumes the role of dominant and the other of submissive. The dominant submits his partner to his social and sexual desires within previously defined limits.
Domination / submission games are the ones that attract the greatest number because they are easier to set up, do not require as much depth as Sado-Masochist relationships, are more « in fashion » which allows today , to many couples, to spice up their sex life.
In this context, you can use many accessories to put your partner in a situation according to his wishes such as handcuffs, a blindfold, ties, a gag but also costumes. The practices of the D / s are generally « soft » and it is the framework, the atmosphere, the table which are often sought. The submissive is at the feet of his dominant, he obeys him, he takes the positions and attitudes that are requested of him. In general, these practices have a beginning and an end but it can happen that some couples go further and make it their way of life with rules to be followed daily.
This practice is therefore often cerebral. The dominant likes to gain the upper hand over his partner, to command, while the dominated finds his pleasure in being led, in letting go.
BDSM, Sadomasochism
By definition, sadomasochism involves the notion of pain. The sadomasochistic will take pleasure in inflicting pain on the masochist who will take pleasure in receiving it. I would say that the BDSM actually takes pleasure in the resistance offered to him by the masochist who will take pleasure in resisting his sadistic dominant. Behind all this, there is a search for excitement and surpassing oneself. In this, sadomasochistic relationships are probably less accessible.
Sadomasochism is a practice that can be difficult to understand by many people because pain and pleasure in pain is the intrinsic research of its practitioners.
For this, the Master or Mistress can use accessories such as whips, swifts for submissive games, badines or even candles, nipple clamps or all kinds of correction accessories that can be found today. hui in all sm stores.
The sadistic Master will find his pleasure in accepting the pain offered to him by his masochistic submissive.
The masochistic submissive really enjoys these practices. To resist the pain, his level of concentration must be high which can bring him into a state of trance and then to enjoyment.
Bondage
Bondage is a practice that involves tying up your partner. In addition to ropes, bondage uses all kinds of accessories such as corsets, confinement bags, camisoles, etc.
A number of their practitioners are recognized as artists around the world, especially in Europe, the United States and Japan.
Today there are even schools that offer internships to learn bondage techniques.
Who am I ?
My name is Anna, I am 30 years old, I am a bisexual masochist submissive and I have found my sexual and psychic fulfillment in my BDSM life. For some time now, I have also been developing my domina skills for both women and men. I relate my BDSM life in a blog and a lot of people contact me through this one.
I receive many testimonials from readers who thank me for sharing my experiences and tell me that it allowed them to take the first step in the BDSM world and put aside their apprehensions.
Sometimes some of my readers just thank me for giving them a clearer idea of what BDSM is even though they won’t go into these practices, it just gave them a more positive outlook on the subject.
I am very happy to help other women and men to come to terms with their fantasies, however intense they may be. I simply offer the possibility to my readers to discover what is my reality of these practices and what they can bring to me.
Whether it’s a way of life or a simple game, BDSM is conducive to the use of sex toys and accessories of all kinds. I discover them regularly and test them to give my opinion to my readers, whether they are beginners or confirmed.
You will understand, what I like is to share and inspire ?
