Orgasm is the physical and psychic manifestation of enjoyment. It can also be defined as the ultimate pleasure. It is felt as well by the woman as by the man.
In men it corresponds to the contraction of the perineum and ejaculation. I have the woman it manifests itself via the retraction of the clitoris, the contraction of the vaginal muscles and the perineum. Orgasm is accompanied by an acceleration of the heart rate and a secretion of endorphin which brings a feeling of well-being and satiety.
In some women, orgasm is manifested by a significant secretion of fluid. This phenomenon is similar to ejaculation and we speak of a squirting woman.
So the question we can ask ourselves: how to reach orgasm?
At 21th century, science is still struggling to define orgasm and there is no real miracle recipe for this state of fullness. In addition, it should not be a source of stress and guide all your sexual acts. Some women never experience an orgasm but still have a very fulfilling sex life.
However, if you can’t reach an orgasm maybe you’re going wrong, maybe you’re looking for it too much and just can’t seem to take a step back. As I said, there is no miracle solution but on the other hand there are certain methods which make it possible to promote the coming of a moment of ecstasy.
To taste the pleasure of orgasm, you can follow the following guidelines:
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To reach orgasm you have to know your body
Masturbation is unfortunately a taboo subject. Yet beyond the pleasure it provides, it also allows you to get to know your body and its erogenous zones. Each woman is different and the sensitive areas for one will not be the same for the other. It is therefore essential to discover your body to know the points that will allow you to reach orgasm.
In matters of masturbation there are no specific rules. You can of course use your fingers and hands, vary the positions (on your back, on your stomach, etc.). It’s up to you to discover the best ways to stimulate yourself and have fun. You can also use sex toys. These allow you to discover new pleasures but also to better stimulate your erogenous zones.
Here is a list of the most famous erogenous zones:
- The clitoris : With your fingers or an external vibrator, you can stimulate your clitoris. The clitoris is a sexual organ that measures 12 cm. Indeed its nerve endings pass under the skin and go to your vagina. So even during vaginal penetration, in reality it is the internal ramifications of the clitoris that are stimulated. This little love button can be an effective ally to make you reach orgasm.
- The point G : This point is located at the level of the upper wall of your vagina at 3 or 4 cm from its entrance, it is a very small area about 1cm and dust. Thanks to the many nerve endings it can easily lead you to orgasm. You have to massage this area in a firm but languid manner with your fingers by making movements of « come over here, as if you are calling someone », you want to opt for the easy way, you can buy a G-spot sextoy. requires long and gentle stimulation. Take your time to tickle him. It provides a different and often much more intense pleasure than stimulation of the clitoris.
- The deep spot : The deep spot are 2 pleasure points which are located at the bottom of the vagina, before the cervix. One point is on the bottom wall and the other on the top wall. You can stimulate them with your middle finger or your index finger, but it is better to use a sex toy for women in order to have optimal stimulation.
To reach orgasm you have to strengthen your perineum
Having a muscular perineum is essential because it helps to keep tone in the sexual organs, but also to prevent urinary leakage. You need to have a well-muscled perineum if you want to be able to reach orgasm.
Orgasm is neither more nor less than a repeated contraction of the muscles, the more muscular your pelvis, the more the sensations will be at the rendezvous. In order to properly strengthen the perineum, it is necessary to do regular Kegel exercises, using geisha balls it remains more practical.
Little tip: to find out if your perineum is sufficiently muscular, you need to insert 2 fingers into your vagina and contract it. If you have trouble removing them then your perfect perineum is quite powerful. On the other hand, if you take them off easily then it is worth practicing some exercises to strengthen it.
The conditions for reaching orgasm
You have to let go
To reach orgasm it is essential to let go. We are often overtaken by our complexes. Yet our own judgment is often much harsher than that of others. To reach orgasm, it is essential to take responsibility for your body and to accept yourself.
If you can’t do it, you can focus on your strengths: a beautiful chest, plump buttocks, a luscious mouth, long legs… etc.
You can also focus on your partner. What makes its charm, what exhilarates you when you look at it … etc
In order to have an orgasm, you have to get ready to receive it, so you have to not be tense and know how to surrender, to indulge in pleasure, do not hesitate to make noise that liberates. Screaming during the act strengthens the sensations and puts you in better conditions to reach orgasm.
Avoid routine
Very often we are preoccupied with the hassles of life: we have to take care of the children, support our boss, listen to their customers … etc.
When you get home, you have to take care of the house, deal with the paperwork … and often after a difficult day the first instinct is to collapse on the sofa watching TV or reading a book. Why not start making a change in taking care of yourself? For example, you can take a good bath, ask your partner for a sensual massage or simply have a nice little aperitif. By taking care of yourself and your couple, you will create a new dynamic that will put you in the right conditions for a hot hug and thus reach orgasm.
Communicate with your partner
As we often say, to strengthen your relationship you have to communicate. Nothing prevents you from sharing your desires with your dear and loving one. Tell him what you would like him to do, what you like less. Do not hesitate to listen to him to understand his desires.
You can also imagine naughty games, send each other naughty texts during the day or even equip yourself with naughty accessories such as sex toys or sexy costumes.
The idea is to stimulate the couple’s libido, strengthen the bond and avoid the sexual routine.
The preliminaries
We can never say it enough, foreplay is essential to reach orgasm. You have to prepare your partner, stimulate her, make her want to indulge. To do this, you can caress her erogenous zones, kiss her tenderly, slip sweet words into the hollow of her ear, give her an erotic massage with massage oils. Do not rush the foreplay, it will help you make your partner cum and finally make him experience orgasm.
How to reach orgasm during sex
Once you’ve had a good, long foreplay, you can get down to business, and have sex with your partner to climax. To put the odds on your side, here is the guide:
Fondling and fondling his partner
It is not because the foreplay is over that you have to stop the caresses, they stabilize the pleasure and the excitement. For my part, I like to be on my partner and caress me when he penetrates me for example. Gentlemen, during doggy style, nothing prevents you from gently caressing your partner’s clitoris, you will stimulate her internally and externally for twice the pleasure.
Find a pleasant position
In order to have an orgasm you have to find the right position that stimulates the desired area. Madame must first manage the movements so you can opt for the Andromache, madame over sir.
Doggy style will be your friend if you want to have a G-spot stimulation.
To awaken the pleasures of the clitoris, nothing better than the missionary or the Andromache, it’s up to you.
Vibrators for couples
In order to vary the pleasures, you can opt for a vibrator for couples during your reports, they are specially designed to stimulate where it is needed. Either with a vibrating ring for the gentleman or with a massager for the lady, you can vibrate with pleasure during the act.
In summary
There is no miracle recipe for achieving orgasm, but these few tips should get you on the right track. Every woman is different and we all have our sensibilities and desires. It is for these reasons that it is essential to know yourself, understand your desires, share them and take responsibility for your body.
Do not hesitate to share if you have any other advice to give!
