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A common mistake about infidelity
Do you think infidelity only concerns couples in crisis? Well, not at all. This is one of the myths surrounding infidelity. It is true that a lot of times adultery happens when a relationship no longer works. However, happy couples also experience episodes of cheating. Curious, isn’t it? But then, why go elsewhere if you are happy in love?
Infidelity has more to do with desire (than sex). In our society, everywhere, all the time, we are encouraged to pursue our desires. We are therefore more inclined to become puppets of pleasure. When it comes to infidelity, it’s exactly the same. Instantly satisfying a desire makes our lives easier at that time. But that does not mean that we are freed from the consequences (guilt, mistrust, rupture of the bond of trust, conflicts, etc.).
Infidelity is a subject that must be discussed openly within the couple. As in other issues, partners must agree on the commitment of loyalty and define the boundaries of their relationship. A couple must choose and openly expose their limits, as there are different reasons that can lead to adultery; and different ways of being unfaithful. For example; the most common reasons for men are boredom and fear of privacy; and those of women the desire for privacy and the feeling of loneliness. In men, infidelity linked to sex is the most common, while in women it is rather affection that is sought (flirtation, seduction, etc.).
What to do to prevent or survive infidelity?
- Talk about your needs. It is important that your relationship largely meets your expectations and each other’s needs in order to continue to believe that it makes sense to be « together ».
- Feed the desire. Desire is not synonymous with « casual » relationships. Long-standing couples go through times when partners feel more or less desire, but the security and desire are well and truly there.
- Learn to speak and listen to the differences.
- Manage conflicts as a team. Don’t let conflict take you away or wait for it to magically resolve.
- Set limits in situations where you are attracted to someone
- Give value to what you have built together; and get involved in the relationship. Bonding is what keeps us happy.
- Accept that infidelity is a phenomenon that happens and needs to be dealt with. Make an allegiance pact explicitly.
- Evaluate your relationship in its most essential areas: affection, sexuality, privacy, team feeling, parenthood.
Many couples who go through episodes of infidelity manage to survive. If everyone works hard, it is possible to regain the trust of their partner. Infidelity is one of the most complicated issues to deal with in a couple’s life because it threatens emotional security. Professional help should be considered if, with your resources, you cannot overcome this crisis. This can be an opportunity to talk about your fears and vulnerabilities and to learn how to express your needs.
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