Nowadays, if we are to believe the magazines, the ads on libertine sites, the TV shows, the women’s forums, the books and the websites bisexuality is no longer a taboo subject, at least that’s what one might think.
Who are the followers of Sapphic pleasures? What are their greatest desires? What was their journey to come to want to discover the body of another woman? Is it for their personal pleasure or to please their partners? I will try to answer all these questions through these few lines.
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Bisexuality: The numbers speak for themselves
In 1950, in the United States, a fairly famous sociological survey was conducted by Alfred Kinsey. At the time, the numbers were as follows: 35 to 46% of bisexual men and only 16 to 25% of bisexual women. However, these results are not entirely accurate because Alfred Kinsey had a fairly broad view of bisexuality. It was me in his investigation, people who had a bi affair during their youth even if today they were purely straight.
In 1992, in France, a survey with analysis made by Alfred Spira was conducted in order to be able to say that 2% of the hetero population was also bi.
On the internet, however, surveys are frequent and they reveal that 19% of women fantasize about making love to another woman. For 64% of men, the most common fantasy is seeing two women having sex.
Bisexuality: Are we all bisexual?
This is not really a question to ask, but we can say that the subjects related to bisexuality are still talking a lot.
According to Freud, we are all bisexual, he even said that a person’s sexual orientations change during his life, going through heterosexual and then bisexual periods.
The most taboo subject is still the bisexuality of the man when he is in a relationship with a woman. The same goes for straight men who love sodomy.
In women it remains different, bisexuality remains better accepted, tolerated and even sometimes encouraged for new experiences. Perhaps this practice is encouraged because it remains the greatest fantasy, among men, to see two women give each other pleasure.
Just watch porn movies today, how many times do you see two women having sex together, many times as it becomes inescapable to fulfill male desires.
Where then are the desires of women? What are their fantasies regarding bisexuality? You just have to look at the libertine sites to understand that often in a libertine couple, the woman is bi.
It seems that very often the women of libertine couples are first bi to satisfy the curiosity of their men, and satisfy their desires of voyeur. They end up enjoying this bisexuality for their own pleasures. In general, bisexuality in women is lived in three, that is to say the woman, the male partner and the mistress.
Amélie, account manager, is married to a man who dreams of seeing her make love with another woman. She confesses that if she had not been married to him she would never have passed this milestone: “ At the beginning, it was only Matthieu, my husband, who had this fantasy. He had dared to talk to me about it after our marriage, he dreamed of seeing me make love with another woman. I’m pretty understanding and tolerant from the ground up, I wasn’t outraged by lesbian women or gay men. But that didn’t appeal to me at all. For Matthieu, it became an obsession, he kept showing me videos of women making love together every night, he hung out on many pornographic sites.. Two years ago, I decided to take the plunge, and I returned with my husband to a libertine club, during our summer vacation in Cap d’Agde. I was consenting, I did not feel obliged to follow him in this place, that night we had made love surrounded by other couples in a dimly lit room. We went back almost every night to this club and over time we found real friends such as Norbert and Julia. This couple were the same age group as us so we decided to have fun exclusively with them. One evening Julia began to caress my chest that didn’t bother me at all because I found her very attractive, a pretty woman. I also thought to please Matthieu, the fact that he was going to watch me with Julia having fun. I was very excited just at the idea of fulfilling her fantasy. I decided to relax, I kissed Julia, I stroked her chest and her penis … That night, I was totally bisexual. Now, when I post ads on swingers sites, I make it clear that I want the couple’s wife to be bisexual to have fun with me. «
Bisexuality: Encounters
Sophia searches for bisexual women via the internet
Sophia is a 23-year-old young woman, she lives in the Paris region. She is libertine and likes to have fun with women for a few years now. For her, the practice of libertinism is a real discovery with the possibility of making beautiful encounters with respect for everyone, looking for a feeling, gentleness, tenderness and above all a certain conviviality … The people she meets can become real friends.
His bisexuality: » I have always found that two women making love remained very sensual, very carnal, it is an intense moment of sharing, of pleasure. Caresses and kisses between women are not the same as with a man. I really like the gentleness of women and we sometimes use sextoys to replace the penetration of a penis, even if nothing beats a real penis (laughter). «
Orgasms, pleasure and even arousal are different with a woman. But beware that it remains complementary, hence the interest of being bisexual. Sophia would have a lot of frustration if she had to stop dating women.
Sophia is a very natural person, she has her head on her shoulders. She even has small exhibitionist tendencies, which makes her a very sexually liberated woman and even more charming. She decides to live these fantasies fully and she can enjoy sexually with a man as well as with a woman.
Marina, a totally bisexual woman
Marina has a deeply bisexual nature, and she has always believed in it. She lives in the Rhône Alpes region and she lives with Fréderic, her husband. The libertine clubs allow him to fully experience his bisexuality.
I decided to interview her to find out more about her and her bisexuality:
Marina, since when does your attraction to women date?
I can tell you that I have always been bisexual deep down. I have always adored women’s bodies, I admire their shapes and curves a lot. And I’ve been like this since my childhood, but I became aware of my real bisexuality in my teenage years because I was more and more attracted to women. I had a physical attraction for women.
How did you experience this awareness of your bisexuality?
I wasn’t touched by the guilt of not being in a classic sexual pattern. For me it remains natural to be attracted to women, it remains normal. I asked myself many questions after having made love with a woman, not before in fact. I wondered if I was really normal or if I had a problem. Let’s say that after my first lesbian experience, I had a hard time coming to terms with my bisexuality.
Please tell us how this first experience unfolded
The fact that I was attracted to women had been inked in me for quite a while, but I waited until after marriage before experimenting anything with a woman. With my husband we met a couple whose wife was bisexual, so it happened very naturally.
A real bond was established between this woman and me, we had a great feeling and it was my best experience, full of sweetness and sensuality. We didn’t spend our time asking questions, we relaxed to give ourselves better.
Since I have had many meetings with women, I know that I need in my bisexuality to be fulfilled.
What attracts you about women?
Oops complicated question I could not say. Besides the physical aspect and my attraction to their body, I must admit that there is an easy bond to have between women. Between women it is easy to understand each other at a glance. There is also the gentleness, the sensuality that one does not necessarily have with a man. For me, the relationship with my husband and the relationship with these women is complete. I am a true bisexual woman and to flourish I could not give up on one or the other.
Is your husband sometimes jealous of these women?
(laughs) yes it does! I had an experience with a woman who was put off by men, so she didn’t want my husband to attend our lovemaking. With this woman, I was neither submissive nor domineering, we were on an equal footing. Frederic was jealous but he tried not to show it to me and did not prevent me from seeing it. It was on my own that I ended this relationship with this woman because I felt that it took me away from Frederic.
What is your type of woman?
I like women with shapes, not thin or thin, I want beautiful buttocks, a beautiful breast, small curves here and there. I want harmony and sensuality.
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