Until a few decades ago, making love or just talking about sex was taboo, and there was no question of feeling pleasure when making love. The sexual act was above all an act of procreation in the religious sense of the term. Phew! Nowadays, things have advanced and that’s good, because now we can talk about sex at 50 years and over….
Today and we could say since sexual liberation, we talk about it, we practice it we even resort to specialists if we encounter difficulties (erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness… etc). An erection problem Sir, we have the solution, a little viagra, cialis, levitra… everything will be in order. You can no longer make love with your partner, no problem, the sex therapist is there, or the psychologist will listen to you. In short, we are no longer alone in getting rid of our sexual problem. We believe in it and everyone agrees on one thing, sex is good for our arteries, so we must not deprive ourselves. We need it for our moral and physical balance. It’s never too late in life, so we consume sex without moderation and regardless of age.
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What are menopause and andropause?
As the Psychoanalyst Author Catherine Bergeret-amselek says so well, we must not fear the menopause. After the age of 50, she can be a rebirth, a second adolescence with a lot of energy.
There have been quite a few studies on the subject which show that the drop in estrogen and progesterone levels disrupts a woman’s sexuality at the time of menopause. Menopause is a highly taboo word, treated medically. In reality, it would seem that this is a « strong point » of femininity.
Some studies show that it is aging that is responsible, and it is because of this that people no longer have sexual activity and a decrease in their desires. In the USA, we are told that 58% of women and 77% of men over 70 still actively have sex and like to talk about sex. In France, in 1992, we were told that women are fully satisfied with their sex life and that it is three times higher than in 1970.
Frequency of sex: 89% of men aged 50 to 70 and 68% of women have more or less one intercourse per month. The average is between 4 and 5 reports per month for the 60 to 69 years old, and one notes that the masturbation is frequent at this age there.
We also talk about andropause for men of the same age. It is a decrease in sexual desire and weaker erections, there is also a decrease in energy, strength and endurance, an impairment of physical capacities with a reduction in muscle mass and fatigue.
On the other hand, from the age of 50, there is a decrease in sexual activity or at least in the frequency of intercourse.
Testimony of Maïté, 60-year-old retiree:
She explains to us that she practices less, but much better. Quality is better than quantity, isn’t it? It is true that with my husband, we make love less, they are far from our 20 years, but we do not regret anything, we try to grant ourselves moments of relaxation 5 or 6 times a month. These moments are so divine, we know each other perfectly well, we trust each other and that’s the main thing for me. We are very complicit, and we have no taboos towards each other. We live our experiences to the full, and will explore our fantasies. I discovered the universe of sextoys, my husband gave me a gift of a vibrating duck, which allows me to play and cum in front of him or all alone in my bath. We also go to luxury hotels, where we treat ourselves to frenzied nights. We combined pleasure and pleasure. Long Live Love !
Testimony of Pierre (70 years old), the husband of Roselyne 65 years old:
He tells us to take, when he needs it, “his magic pill”: “I had to resort to this process because I had sexual failures following a prostate problem. And it is thanks to the progress of medicine, that I can finally develop myself sexually, I can satisfy my wife. I encourage you gentlemen if necessary to do the same, do not let the time pass, because it is useless, you must act as quickly as possible. As soon as you experience erectile dysfunction, go see your general practitioner who will refer you to specialists. I assure you you will come back to life, because a newfound sexuality is essential in a couple. Even at our age, we should not hesitate to have recourse to penis rings, why not, they can be quite effective ”.
Are we sexually fulfilling after 50 and over?
Some people will turn to other activities to compensate for this lack. Most people have a partner they live with, whether they are married or not. And you have understood it correctly, it is not because we are 50 years old and over that we are rusty, we want to enjoy life and our bodies. There is no lack of solutions.
So for women who are menopausal, several solutions are available to them, to be able to have pleasure. There are a lot of alternatives on the market, you have to use them. For those who have vaginal dryness, you will all find a variety of lubricants, you have to try several before finding the one that suits you best. You can also use hormones, which will be prescribed for you by your doctor to keep your body in good shape and to be on top sexually.
Some even tell us they have more orgasms or have a more fulfilling and richer sex life than before. Why ? Because they are freer in their heads, no more problem with contraception, the IUD is forgotten…. The children have taken off, some are approaching retirement and will leave this world of stress, to devote themselves only to them, only happiness. Freedom what! They take the opportunity to give themselves a makeover, the over 50s no longer neglect themselves, they are very pretty, they want to please and completely review their wardrobes, they fall into seduction, they feel the need to be desirable. It is imperative that they explore areas they do not know, because life is short and they intend to enjoy it again. They don’t want to be victims, sex will no longer be taboo.
Testimony of Odile, (59 years old) recently divorced:
She tells us that she rediscovered her body after her divorce. “When I got married to my husband in 1966, I hadn’t had sex before him. We lived side by side, like strangers: me, I invested in my work, my children, the house, I wanted everything to be perfect, but I have, or we have forgotten a detail of « our couple » and eventually in the end, I realized that I was forgetting myself too, that we were in a routine. We made love like other couples, but nothing more, it had become the monthly marital act… .. Over time, more pleasure, more desire, no fantasy, no caress, no complicity, no more kisses, in short total nothingness. My husband was not doing it either, I even wondered if he did not have a mistress, and one day, I broke down and we decided to divorce around 55 years old because it was unlivable. You are probably wondering why I hadn’t done it instead, I was thinking about the reaction of my kids, I wanted to preserve them, so once they were stowed away I was relieved and I finally got to think about my life. Of course, it was not rosy, I had moments of depression, of doubt, and finally, I met a man. This man was the trigger, he made me discover another side of me that I did not suspect. Finally, I discovered Love, the real one, enjoyment until orgasm, I offered myself completely without restraint to someone I barely knew. We imagined all kinds of erotic games, I fulfilled fantasies, I had desires, it went to all the senses. I had become a liberated woman, without complexes, without taboos. Sextoys, toys, split panties, stockings, full waxing of my sex, naturism, libertine clubs… .. I assumed, I made other people want, they looked at me with envy, finally I was no longer ashamed of myself. Finally, our paths parted with this man, because he did not want to leave his wife. I am making up for time, I have become « a modern-day cougar », I make love very often depending on my encounters on the net or otherwise. I have great success with men who are between 25 and 35 years old, they flirt with me, and I quickly get into their games, to consume them as I wish ”.
The miracle pills: Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, DHEA, pheromone, protein… yes but… is it dangerous or not?
Since these drugs are on the market, men no longer hesitate to consume them. They are intended to solve erection problems, it facilitated their sexuality. Seniors have found a more harmonious and fulfilling life with their partner.
Women are not forgotten, because researchers are currently studying a pill to help them stimulate their libidos, with the famous DHEA the hormone of youth it seems? We have heard a lot about it, DHEA is the hormone that our body produces naturally and which is transformed into androgens. From the age of 45, in women, it begins to decrease. By taking this hormone it would increase testosterone levels, and improve libido. To see, the specialists do not all agree with this theory. Studies of women between the ages of 60 and 79 have found no conclusive evidence
There is another hormone that acts on libido: the pheromone
Did you know that smells have an impact on our libido? It is a reliable track the specialists are unanimous, we women produce a chemical compound which would act as a super sexual stimulant.
When menopause arrives, this pheromone is no longer produced because of the hormonal upheaval. There were first tests carried out on female rats, then the tests were able to begin on 57-year-old postmenopausal women. We added pheromone in their perfume, and it seems that 80% of them had a slight increase in their lovemaking. And for the remaining 20%, the results were lower because they had a placebo in their scent.
And is the PT-141 protein reliable?
Women would finally have their magic pills, « their viagra »! we’ll see ….
This pill was put on the market for weight loss, but scientists have researched it, and it has been tested in men. After trying it, the male guinea pigs found themselves seized with unprecedented sexual vigor. Tests have also shown that this protein would stimulate libido in women.
The PT-141 could therefore, by its central action, prove to be effective in both sexes. We could therefore assume that the famous pill could be the remedy for us women lacking libido!
In the meantime, and to conclude, remember that for all sexual problems, it is still best to talk to your doctor.
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