Over the past 50 years, more than 60 studies on the subject of sex and pregnancy have emerged, so ladies and gentlemen, you are not the only ones looking for answers.
At the time and depending on the culture, women sought advice on this subject from the family doctor, the village chief, the last known wizard who worked in the forest, the village priest, or another large institution. respected for his power.
The women emerged from these interviews with a lot of information, each more absurd than the next. Here are some examples of stupidities listed on the subject of sex and pregnancy: you have to make love every day because the man must nourish the fetus with seminal fluid and sperm, or on the contrary, it is forbidden to introduce anything it is in the vagina under penalty of being damned because the man must not return to the scene of his crime.
Of course, we respect our ancestors a lot, but we will rather see what is advised nowadays concerning this question of sex and pregnancy, rather easy question and yet quite complicated to answer it.
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Sex and pregnancy: How should my sexuality be during my pregnancy?
I will start with an important sentence that will delight you, yes you can have sex during the period of your pregnancy without taking any risk for the baby, you can also continue to use a vibrator massager, however, it must not be rotating.
If your doctor has forbidden you to have sex during your pregnancy for any health reason, you should of course follow his advice.
For other pregnant women there are no worries or contraindications to practicing sex. On the contrary, making love would even be beneficial.
Sex and pregnancy: Fine, but do I want to have sex?
Several studies on the issue of sexual desire during pregnancy have been carried out and the results are mixed since it depends on many factors.
Some women, during pregnancy, have a libido at zero level throughout the nine months, while other women are surprised to become very demanding with heightened sexual urges. Several women even admit to having their very first orgasm during their pregnancy.
So there aren’t really any rules regarding this issue, but one thing is certain it also depends on the woman’s pregnancy cycles. Certain periods are more favorable than others to combine sex and pregnancy.
Sex and Pregnancy: The Three Periods of Pregnancy
The hormones secreted by a woman during the first three months of her pregnancy can cut off all her sexual urges. Since during these first three months the woman will surely have frequent nausea and periods of intense and repeated fatigue. During these first three months, it is rare for the woman to experience periods of intense sexual desire. Sex and pregnancy are not really compatible during this time.
However with a little patience, you will arrive at the period from the fourth to the sixth month, this is where you are most likely to be very sexually demanding, and your cravings will be exacerbated. It is during these months that the woman will describe a meteoric rise in libido. These cravings are caused by hormonal changes which are numerous during this period and also by the end of repeated fatigue and nausea that can be experienced during the first three months.
The woman goes through a period when she is less stressed, the risk of miscarriage is markedly reduced, and she gets used to her new body with her little round belly.
But it is not only the curves of the belly that appear, there is also a narrowing at the level of the vagina which will allow the member of the man to feel much better, hence the fact that several women have had their first pregnant orgasms.
The belly of the woman, at this period, is not yet definitively round, it can thus show flexibility, it is necessary to take advantage of it. This is the best time to combine sex and pregnancy!
Generally, over the past three months, sex and pregnancy don’t mix. The woman is very disinterested in sex, because she develops a very maternal spirit and sometimes forgets her companion. This adds to that the practical problems, the belly being very round it becomes difficult to find good positions.
Sex and pregnancy: some positions to adopt
Violent sports such as ground fighting and water skiing are not recommended for mothers-to-be, they are also not recommended to practice the acrobatic positions of the Kama sutra.
It is necessary to avoid acrobatic positions especially for the last three months, because it is at this time that the belly becomes very round and that it is necessary to find good positions for maximum comfort.
The man must also pay attention, in addition to the round belly, to his partner’s breasts, which have become very sensitive and painful. It is therefore necessary to avoid positions which allow to have any contact with the chest. (Example: The missionary, I assure you in the end you will not be able to put up with it anymore, it is lived experience!).
For my part, I particularly loved the position of the teaspoon, the woman and the man lying on the side, the man behind the woman, it became my favorite position during my pregnancy.
If you prefer to sit comfortably on your companion, who will be lying on his back, then prefer the Andromache position, this will allow you to rest your stomach.
Wait before you get started, I haven’t finished, I still have the youngest one, « her legs around her neck ». This position consists of being seated on your companion, your feet caressing these ears, you will be rested, your legs extended.
Sex and pregnancy: sensuality and caresses
If you are a rather stressed, tired and anxious woman during your pregnancy do not panic, you have many solutions to make your partner happy.
Massages, hugs and caresses will help keep the sensual side between you.
You think it’s time to rekindle the flame in your relationship, you have everything you need, you are pregnant, you have a lot more generous breasts and forms where it is needed. I remind you that more than half of men admit that pregnant women are much sexier than others.
Nine months is still fast, so enjoy your bust and shape before it’s too late.
Take the opportunity to start a parade or a private pantyhose show for your man. I assure you, once past the complex of curves, the result is explosive ?
Sex and pregnancy: What about my partner in all of this?
During pregnancy, the woman remains the heroine in this affair, but the future dad must also have his place.
Men often see pregnant women as a fragile little baby who must be protected and who must not be upset. He is therefore very afraid of hurting her by inappropriate gestures. For example, it often happens that a man is afraid of hitting the fetus with his penis …
You have to reassure your companion. The baby is well protected in your round belly and the bond between you and him is fusional. What the mother feels the fetus also feels. Thus, the hormone that causes pleasure, oxytocin, that the mother will secrete during sexual intercourse will be beneficial for the child.
Sex and pregnancy: No risk for the baby?
Often future parents are afraid of hurting the baby or disturbing him which creates a sexual blockage. In addition, rumors and distant beliefs only increase this fear and doubts.
Scientific studies have proven that your baby does not risk absolutely anything because he is warm and comfortably installed in his amniotic pouch, but in addition a mucous plug closes your cervix which guarantees the protection of your baby and then I promise you your child does not look at you: D.
Sex and pregnancy: listen to yourself and follow the doctor’s advice
Whether you are pregnant or not, if you don’t feel like having sex, you shouldn’t force yourself. Listen to your body correctly, if you cannot listen to it, seek advice from your doctor who knows you better than anyone else. It will help you to interpret the bodily signals.
So
Soon goodbye to the intimacy of the couple and hello baby bottles so do not block yourself when you are pregnant. Make the most of your months of pregnancy, you are above all a woman, not yet a mother, you have the room for your partner and you alone, so make love as you see fit, unless the doctor advises otherwise.
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