For many, BDSM is a mysterious universe that elicits many reactions. Some find BDSM abject, others are curious, and some embrace it completely.
It is a universe which can fascinate some and frighten others. Before presenting to you some of the BDSM articles used in this environment, I will remind you of the meaning of the acronym BDSM, in order to unravel the mystery of these practices.
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Summary definition of BDSM
In BDSM have found different practices: Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission and finally Sadomasochism.
I had already written an article on the subject: BDSM explained. But a little reminder of the basics is always good to take
- B and D mean bondage and discipline. Bondage is a Japanese art that consists of tying up your partner and the discipline corresponds to the hold that the dominant has on the dominated.
- D and S signify domination and submission. Domination is having total power over your partner, dominating him. Submission is the fact that the other partner submits to orders.
- S and M stands for sadism and masochism, more commonly known as sadomasochism. Sadism is the pleasure of doing harm while masochism is the fact of finding pleasure in suffering.
Why practice BDSM?
- According to a Dutch scientific study, BDSM practitioners would be in better mental health than non-practitioners, they would naturally be less anxious and less neurotic.
- According to another american study, BDSM practitioners would be people less stressed than average, the practice of BDSM would have the same virtues as yoga.
- According to science, pain may be the source of pleasure. To be more precise, the secretion of endorphin due to pain is the source of pleasure.
- The BDSM practice allows you to surrender to pleasure, forget all your social convictions, this freedom allows you to really feel the pleasure of the act.
- The practice of BDSM, allows you to learn to listen to your partner and his desires, to avoid hurting him or going beyond the limits. This strengthens the bond of trust in the couple, respect and complicity.
- Thanks to the film « 50 Shades of Gray », the practice of BDSM has been revisited, and it is open to all. We are witnessing a change in mentalities
- This practice makes it possible to bring a little novelty to your relationship, you can go from the nice maid to the demanding mistress, and the gentleman can go from the virile man to the punished submissive.
To be able to indulge in these pleasures, it is necessary to have good BDSM articles, appropriate and of quality. I made a selection of some BDSM articles from the softer to the hardest.
Soft BDSM articles
Candles sm
A subdued light, a few drops of wax on Madame’s chest, to warm the bodies on a winter evening. The heat of the wax brings a slight pain that will stiffen you and exalt your senses, and your desire. Prohibition to use beeswax candles, you risk getting serious burns. Opt instead for real massage candles, which allows you to have a little BDSM practicality and at the same time you can finish on a sensual touch, with a good massage.
The sexy blindfold
You have in stores several types of headbands according to your practices: you have the headband made of silk for a sensual atmosphere, you also have the leather band for a darker atmosphere where domination and submission are mixed. Leather is generally the most famous material in fetish and SM circles. The blindfolded person is plunged into total darkness, undergoing without knowing which bdsm items are going to be used to punish her.
Handcuffs
Handcuffs remain one of the most famous and classic bdsm items in bondage practice. The handcuffs are used to tie up his partner in order to subject him to your caresses and other fantasies while he is defenseless because he will have his feet and hands tied. You will also find several materials, silk for the sensual atmosphere, soft and pleasant material, or the dark atmosphere leather and poignant material. It’s up to you to find the right material.
The harder bdsm items
The swift sm
In order to « whip » your partner, you have several BDSM items that are sold in stores: whips, fags, swifts, whips, paddles. The swift sm is the best-selling fashion item. According to your desires you can caress your partner thanks to the bdsm swift or give a more violent blow if this is your wish.
The sm gag
You can use the sm gag in one of your scenarios (victim and kidnapper). You can also add blindfolds and handcuffs to deprive your partner of almost all of his senses.
The fact of not being able to speak and see any more, allows to have another type of pleasure, and another excitement which will be caused by fear. The best-selling model remains the ball gag.
The nipple clamp
It’s a sm accessory widely used in the BDSM world. It is used to stimulate the nipples of the woman or the man in a more or less intense way according to their desires and the model of nipple clamps chosen. You will find a mixture of pain and pleasure with the altered blood pressure. The partner will have much more sensitive nipples and therefore will no longer dare to move, which creates a feeling of submission.
The sm balaclava
Diving or being plunged into total darkness is a fantasy shared by many BDSM practitioners. The fact of mechanically masking the view an extra sensitivity of the other senses. Thus touch, taste, smell and hearing are much more stimulated. In addition, the fact of hiding the sight of his partner also entails an effect of surprise.
The leash and collar sm
These BDSM articles symbolize submission and belonging and the submissive or the submissive to her Master. There are a multitude of different sm collars as well as leash. The use of these BDSM items does not involve any physical pain but contributes to the due or submissive mental stimulation.
This list of BDSM items is not exhaustive and there are many other sm accessories. For dilation games some use speculum, it is also possible to practice bondage using suitable ropes or sm tapes. Finally, some bdsm articles reinforce the feeling of submission such as the straitjacket or the chastity cage.
Safety is the key word in BDSM
All BDSM practices must respect certain safety rules:
– set a stop word before the start of the BDSM session
– Respect your partner and not impose practices that have not been agreed upon in advance
– Do not force your partner if this has not been planned in advance and within limits that he or she accepts
In the practice of BDSM, the goal is not to hurt, contrary to what one might think, it is a bit of a practice that allows you to surpass yourself without ever exceeding the limits that you set yourself.
