You are probably certain / certain that you are a very good and desirable partner, so that you trigger orgasms all the time. Well, I’m sorry to tell you that statistically it’s not uncommon for people to fake.
According to English studies, 80% of women have already lied about their pleasure, and faked an orgasm. But ladies, you can take the guilt off since men also lie about their pleasure with 22% of little liars: D.
So conclusion, yes it’s human to simulate an orgasm, everyone usually does it once in their life.
But then, is the person doing the right thing to simulate? Are there times when you have to simulate and others not? Here are the reasons that have been listed, there are valid reasons and others… less.
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Good reasons to fake an orgasm:
Simulate an orgasm so as not to hurt your partner
When you are with a person who tends to become susceptible if everything does not go well, to the millimeter, it is better to simulate an orgasm if you want to spend a pleasant evening without the fuss. Be careful, however, that it does not become a habit to fake an orgasm for the sole purpose of having peace.
Simulate an orgasm to enhance your pleasure
Sometimes it takes a woman to fake her to increase her own pleasure dramatically. You can make orgasm come with a little concentration and wanting it very strongly. Everything is cerebral then. This will be a short-lived simulation for intense enjoyment afterwards. In short, in this case, faking an orgasm is done for a good cause.
Simulate an orgasm because, exceptionally, you don’t get it right
You’ve had a hard day, you’re literally on your knees but your other half really wants you. Okay, but usually you have an orgasm very quickly and rather easily while tonight nothing comes… Pretend, if you don’t want to worry her for nothing.
Fake an orgasm because the act is very average tonight
Sometimes, the fun is far from being there and it feels like wasting time never to get there. You feel that tonight, no matter how hard you try, you won’t get anything out of it, while your companion is waiting for you to have an orgasm to have it in turn. Shorten the act and pretend, tonight is not your night!
You are faking an orgasm, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t having fun.
We can simulate an orgasm simply to end the act or to reassure the ego of his companion. But be careful, that does not mean that the act was null and that we took no pleasure. Many women will never have orgasms in their life, and will be very happy with their somersaults.
And then, rest assured ladies, the gentlemen also pretend when they have gone a little too fast towards the path of ecstasy while you, you are still waiting for your orgasm. This remains a positive point since the gentleman seeks not to destabilize the pleasure of Madame, the time she arrives at orgasm in turn.
Fake orgasms for the wrong reasons
Simulating an orgasm to solve a problem
No need to put a handkerchief on her problems, if you are not having fun and you do not have an orgasm during intercourse, talk to your partner in order to resolve the situation and find the best solution.
Fake an orgasm to make him think he’s the best
Of course, if you spend your time simulating your orgasms and your pleasure, your partner will necessarily tell himself that he is doing things right and that nothing needs to change. He will then repeat the same gestures over and over again, the same errors. Better to discuss this before you get bored in bed.
Simulating an orgasm reinforces stress
You lock yourself into an orgasm simulation routine. You concentrate on faking an orgasm, you play the right actress. It becomes a stress which does not help you find your pleasure and consumes a lot of energy for nothing. It’s a vicious circle, better to get out of it as soon as possible.
Orgasm is not an end in itself
For perfect sex, people often think they should automatically have an orgasm which is wrong, totally wrong. There are several kinds of pleasures because the orgasm is not the end of the act in itself. The pursuit of orgasm can quickly become a source of stress if you cannot reach it. Favor practices such as slow sex or erotic games in order to stimulate you and stop aiming for performance at all costs.
Do not simulate an orgasm with a « stable » companion
If it’s a one night stand, you can fake a worry-free orgasm. There will be no consequences, after all you will probably never see each other again.
But if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time with the same person and fake orgasm, then you fuel the frustration and risk falling into a vicious cycle. The risk is to forget the feeling of desire and pleasure in your relationship.
Lies are very negative for a couple, it proves a real lack of communication. You may feel resentment towards your companion over time. With each report, you risk being exposed, and there it will be worse because it will be necessary to be able to give valid explanations.
Solutions to enjoy instead of simulating an orgasm
Discover your body solo
To better understand and master your sources of pleasure, you must already learn to know your body. The best is still to caress yourself to find out what you like and what you don’t like. You can use your hands or use sex toys for this.
When you master your sources of pleasure, it will be easier to guide your partner so that you have an orgasm as a couple.
Muscle your perineum
Whether you are a woman or a man, the more you will have a muscular perineum the greater your pleasure will be. In women, the more toned the perineum, the more easily she will have orgasms and much more intense than normal. In men this will allow him to manage his erections and the duration of intercourse.
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Use sex toys
Do not hesitate to buy sextoys, they can be very effective in leading you on the path of ecstasy. You can choose a small pebble which will be an exceptional clitoral stimulator, a vibrator internal for deep pleasure or a rabbit sex toy for double stimulation.
Think about foreplay
When the desire is powerful, the pleasure is directly at the rendezvous. You have to know how to raise the desire for the orgasm to be intense.
Do not hesitate to do sensual massages, caresses, use a dildo, play the actresses of cinema by imagining sensual scenarios.
Only one sentence to remember: No rush and imagination!
See a professional
If you do not feel any pleasure during your intercourse, talk to a professional in order to do more in-depth examinations or to identify where your blockage may be coming from. Don’t be ashamed to see a specialist.
In conclusion, while faking an orgasm can be helpful at times, it shouldn’t become a habit every time you have sex. And if despite everything you have to fake an orgasm, take the example of Meg Ryan in « When Harry meets Sally »
